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Recruiting, Dating, and Therapy

We often make comparisons between recruiting and dating for easy analogies. Both involve major decisions, impact your overall happiness, and are integral to life. Given the similarities, when I saw an article about the language of therapy taking over the dating scene, it peaked my attention. If this language is seeping into dating, how long will it be before it seeps into business? Rather than discussing specific language in business, let’s talk about an absolute truth. (Not really, it’s only my opinion, so I’ll revise the statement to be my absolute truth).

Everyone should have a therapist. Everyone. If you’re happy, if you’re depressed, if you’re overwhelmed, or if you’re wildly successful. It doesn’t matter. Therapy is a good idea. There’s an old rebuttal in our industry… working with a recruiter is like working with an attorney. It’s better to have a good one you don’t need, than to need one you don’t have.

Therapy is the same. We’ve coached many of you for several consecutive years. It doesn’t matter how grounded you are, how solid your relationships are, or how good of a recruiter you are.

Mental health isn’t stagnant. We all have circumstances which cause us to falter occasionally, and having the right support is paramount.

Having a therapist doesn’t make you weak. In fact, it’s the opposite. Nothing is a bigger demonstration of strength than an openness to improve. We all carry baggage from previous life experiences. We make decisions from a child’s perspective, and until we go back as adults to determine the accuracy, we can walk around with false assumptions.

If you’ve been holding back on engaging with a therapist, I’d encourage you to do so. Unpacking your identity can be an arduous process, but there’s light and spaciousness on the other side. 

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Tricia Tamkin, headhunter, advisor, coach, and gladiator. Tricia has spoken at over 50 recruiting events, been quoted in multiple national publications, and her name is often dropped in groups as the solution to any recruiters’ challenges. She brings over 30 years of deep recruiting experience and offers counsel in a way which is perspective changing and entertaining.

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