You are currently viewing Stress During the Holidays

Stress During the Holidays

The holiday season can be joyful, but it’s no secret that, for some, it brings anxiety, isolation, or even sadness. The holiday hustle, strained relationships, and the pressure to create the “perfect” experience often amplify this stress.

If you find yourself sometimes sad during the holidays, here are some tips:

Set Clear Boundaries with Family  The holidays often mean more time with family, which can be rewarding and challenging. Conflicting personalities, differing beliefs, or unresolved tensions can create friction. Decide in advance how much time you want to spend and the types of discussions you’re willing to entertain. We’d encourage you to have an exit strategy. Preparing for a way out if things become overwhelming can help you feel less anxious and more equipped to manage the events. Jason and I have code words we use to communicate if either of us needs an exit from a conversation or event.

What if you have family members who won’t leave politics out of the event? Or what if they’re asking you questions you don’t want to answer? Try a response like one of these:

  •     “Let’s keep the holidays light. Let’s save that topic for a different time.”
  •     “I appreciate your curiosity, thank you, and I’m not going to participate/answer that question.” (Smiling)

Address Loneliness and Isolation  Feeling disconnected can be especially difficult during the holidays. But there are ways to foster deeper connection. Who are the friends you can schedule calls with? Are there community service or volunteering opportunities to increase your connection with others? For those of you who lost an important person in your life this year, first holidays can be difficult. Is there a new tradition you might entertain to celebrate this person’s life and acknowledge them? Food for thought.

Set Realistic Expectations  Whenever we’re upset about something, it’s because it didn’t meet our expectations. This would imply that changes in your expectations could massively increase your happiness. Let’s start with the absolutes. A “picture-perfect” holiday doesn’t exist, and chasing it can lead to frustration. Let’s instead prioritize the things that matter. What brings you joy? Low-key celebrations can be just as fulfilling as elaborate ones.

The holidays can be stressful, but they don’t have to overshadow your mental health. By setting boundaries, fostering connections, and adjusting your expectations, you can create a season that works for you. Embrace what feels right for you this year, and remember, there’s no wrong way to celebrate the holidays.

Thrive with the holiday trinity of sanity: Boundaries (complete with escape plans and polite deflections), Connection (calls, volunteering, or new traditions), and Imperfection (because the Pinterest-perfect holiday only exists in your head.)

Stop working in a silo! Get the support you need from expert coaches and a group of high performing peers. Learn more below.

church of executive search

Tricia Tamkin, headhunter, advisor, coach, and gladiator. Tricia has spoken at over 50 recruiting events, been quoted in multiple national publications, and her name is often dropped in groups as the solution to any recruiters’ challenges. She brings over 30 years of deep recruiting experience and offers counsel in a way which is perspective changing and entertaining.

Leave a Reply